Valuing emotional experiences within your relationship and regularly practice eye gazing and empathy toward each other.
This guided visualisation you are about to experience is a powerful re-creation of your relation-ship with yourself and ultimately with your intimate partner. For your desire is to enter into the mystery of loving and soulful connection with the other. A union that invites this mystery and intimacy will be guided by the feminine qualities which are subtle, emotional, embodied, change-able, and creative. Soul full union and conscious relationship can be known when you can allow for this Natural illumination.
Lumina Natural – natural illumination Moon-light opaque directions along your pathway of your heart – you can be okay with this pathway, one that can be more difficult to follow, because the lighting is more subtle and because of the cycles of the moon, the waxing and the waning the light is always different and full of mystery and uncertainty.
Conscious relationship guided by the warm moon-light radiating from the mysterious feminine …. gentle feminine warm light – glowing from the moon.
A woman’s natural consciousness is of a unique and beautiful kind. Conscious relationship guided by the feminine and respected by the masculine will allow for a whole new re-creation story to be formed within your psyche and then to radiate as a powerful influence into the collective psyche. Psyche means Soul – the soul of relationship needs to be guided by the feminine spirituality – Natural cycles of transformation, and creation. The fertility of creativity is warmed through the variations of emotions in the Ebb and flow of your love.
The masculine light comes from the sun, it is strong and predictable…the masculine takes form through rules and institutions of right and wrong, a more intellectual compatibility often separated from the body/heart experience. An embodied and soulful relationship doesn’t ask for the “right” way of doing sex, it wants something even more difficult, respect for loving connections and the mystery of attraction.
The soulful relationship asks to be honoured for what it is, not for what we wish it could be.
For a man he needs his inner woman, feminine to show him his true Nature and Spiritual expression. Most men get their deepest conviction of self worth from a woman, wife, mother. Developing this inner feminine guide is important for a man to experience soulful relating.
A soulful relationship has little to do with your expectations and moral requirements. It has the potential to lead you into the mystery that expands your heart and transforms your thoughts.
Allow your soul to sing up the new song of intimacy, each soul having its own song of loving and living…and so when you hear this your hearts are touched for-ever, etched in the union of consciousness.
When you are considering emotions and afraid of their intensity or seeming irrationality – be in wonder and welcome each and every emotional wave. Just as the ocean is changeable, one day a full sea with large waves crashing on the shore line, the next a calm flat ocean, warm and inviting you to dive in deep. At other times, the swell and currents are fast and erratic, a time to respect the powerful forces of Nature… Men if you are a surfer or water sports fan, you don’t make the ocean wrong for the particular conditions of the day, you adjust yourself accordingly. So why make your woman, or your own feelings and emotions wrong? The ocean of love can be played out upon the surface, and it can be explored with respect to the depths too. For true In To Me See – you need to have equipment to dive down safely and remain in the depths, Fathomless depth that the soul’s journey can take you on with your loved one.
You open to love as you gaze into each other’s eyes, breathe together, allow time and emotion to swell from the depths, hold each other in the depths of your soul and when it is time to breathe deeply as you to soar to the surface and further great highs. Be alongside each other sharing the joyous ride on a wave of true bliss. Rising to the surface, diving deep into the Lumina natural il-lumination
Allowing a woman’s voice to sing a new song of intimacy – combining this with the harmonies of women singing, each their own song of loving and living. When you hear this your hearts are touched for ever etched in the union of consciousness
Open eye gazing instructions
Sit comfortably so that you can look deeply into your lovers eyes – maybe choosing one eye to look into, sometimes it is difficult to switch between eyes. So choose the eye that seems the most comfortable.
For five minutes you are going to enter into a meditative and contemplative state of awareness. your partner is your beautiful mantra – keeping your focus on any emotions that arise, or tensions, thoughts, images and impressions. You are the observer, witnessing the many things that arise in this practice of eye gazing.
Remember to just let the breath fall to its own natural rhythm and you are not talking during this time. Silent together feeling into this space and time together.
Then I would like you to take turns in sharing how that was for you in particular share with your partner any emotions or important thoughts that came to your mind.
The partner who is listening, this is a time of practicing “really listening” you don’t have to fix any-thing, or give advice, you are going to actually reflect back, repeat what you have heard and felt your partner to have said.
Your partner will let you know if you got it “right” or maybe missed the important part.
So please don’t be offended and try to correct them. Because it is there emotion after all and you can’t read their mind, even if you think you can, it is really only a guess.
So once your partner feels that you have deeply heard and shown empathy and understanding. Then it is your turn to share how you felt during the open eye gazing practice.
Same your partner will listen and reflect back to you what they have understood you to say.
After this you may go into your own back and forth conversation about matters, or you may con-tinue to enjoy the closeness that you feel.
you may like to do this practice once a week, to make a special time that is for your eye gazing practice.
You may like to do this practice at the end of the day before you go to bed. A wonderful way to keep in touch with each other and show appreciation for the truth of your experiences.
Remember during the eye gazing practice, you don’t have to solve any problems or make any plans, it is more a gentle process of opening up emotionally and expressing your truth. Then being able to check through words that your partner understands and has shown empathy toward you.
Make sure you both get a turn to share and be deeply listened to.
Remember It takes practice
Simonette Vaja – Psychologist and Ceremonialist
The message of this meditation series is to empower women to have the courage to speak out and live by their truth. To encourage women to value themselves so that they say NO! to being mis-treated, ridiculed, abused and invalidated for their emotional experiences. Women when dancing in their power can educate and guide men to respect life and love and the creative process of love making and living everyday life.
Men when you have respect for emotional expression you can allow yourself to be guided by your woman and value her opinions and emotions. The feminine is the closest to the divine embod-ied experience, and requires you to feel vulnerable and uncertain. Masculine strength and spiritu-ality is experienced through the feminine qualities. In our present Culture we need more tips on how to transform misogynist sexism to holding a regard and respect for the feminine quali-ties such as seeking to understand emotions of grief, love, empathy, fear, jealousy, anger. Rather than making emotions wrong and living in the rational intellect. Being in love is an emotional ex-perience. So together you are on a path of discovery into the unknown waters of emotions.
Same gender partners, transgender relationships are included in this emotional awareness path to loving relationships. I use the terms masculine and feminine, psyche, and qualities in the guided meditations. In my e-learning courses I describe in more detail the four quadrant model of the mind in relation to Masculinity and Femininity, Static and Dynamic influences. I have passionately studied and inquired into this field for over 25 years now, through working with groups of women and men, couples and my lived experiences. I have enjoyed reading countless books and learning from other teachers in this field.
I believe there are many who have moved beyond the harmful dichotomy of degradation towards femininity, and the misuse of power over another. Social media and global awareness shows that there is a tidal wave of harm being done. We need to do the inner healing and transformation – from your deepest pain can be your brightest gain. When you acknowledge and learn how to respect the feminine qualities like emotional intelligence, empathy, creativity and explore an essential human experience one that includes love as a mystery unfolding. Relationships will blossom, together we can practice being respectful, seeking to understand and respectful of the emotional tides. The ocean of love is an emotional embrace.
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